Grief Post of the Week
It Just Is
I saw this post and it hit home for me. Though we want it to, does grief really have to make sense? There is nothing about this life in my opinion that makes normal sense. We live in the past and the present. We're happy and sad. We're social and reclusive. We're in the midst and isolated. How do any of those oxymorons make sense when they are active at the same time daily in our lives?
Maybe, just maybe, grief isn't supposed to make sense to those of us who've experienced it. Maybe the goal is to say "it just is". That does not mean that it won't hurt, that we won't have hard times with it, and that we won't go through all of the emotions and then some. Saying "it just is" to me implies that there is nothing I can do after the fact to change the situation that caused my son to pass. I would do anything to have my son back, but that is not how this thing called life works so "it just is". Plus, if you got the answers you were seeking, would that help? Would that change any part of the end result? Maybe the end goal of grief is not to forget, to still love our loved ones like we always have, and to adopt the "it just is" mentality. In the long run, maybe that preserves our mental health. Just food for thought. God Bless.